Home Funerals and Burials

For most of history, we have cared for our dead at home. The deceased were memorialized in the family parlor and buried in the family graveyard. Embalming has been practiced as far back as ancient times, but it has not always been accepted in the US.

The process from death to burial happened quickly enough that preservation was not an issue. During the Civil War, people became more familiar with embalming as surgeons widely used embalming to preserve the bodies of soldiers so they could be transported home for burial.

• A Home Funeral (or Family-Directed Funeral) takes place outside of a funeral home. This usually means in a residence or surroundings special to the deceased. The loved ones of the deceased take care of bathing, dressing, and tending to the body. Typically, embalming is not used. Instead, dry ice or synthetic ice is used to keep the body cool.
• A Home Burial is a burial that takes place on your own private property. The family and friends often build their own simple wooden casket or use a fiberboard.

When President Abraham Lincoln’s body was carried across the country by train, newspapers reported on the techniques used for preservation. Americans began to see the value of embalming. Body preservation began to be embraced, but the home was still the center of activity in terms of caring for the dead. The embalmer would come to the home to tend to the body, and the funeral would still take place in the family parlor.

It wasn’t until the 1900s that conditions were right for the funeral industry as we know it today to be born. People began to turn to death specialists to handle the details of caring for the body. Funeral parlors began to pop up in towns across the country. During this time, we also saw the growth of community graveyards as an alternative to the traditional family cemetery.

Today, the funeral industry is estimated to be worth nearly $21 billion. It is unquestionably an important and integral part of our society. It cares for our dead, comforts grieving families, and helps to sustain our legacy. Nevertheless, a small but growing movement is embracing the practice of holding the funeral at home rather than at a funeral home or place of worship.

Why Home Burial?

Among the key factors driving the home funeral and burial movement’s growth are the desire to find “green” alternatives to traditional funerals and the need to reduce costs. The cost of the average funeral is inching toward $10,000. Home funerals offer a promising option since the cost can be significantly less.

Before opting for a home burial, it’s crucial to familiarize yourself with local regulations and zoning laws, which vary widely. Some regions have specific requirements for home burials, including plot size, depth, and documentation.

But home funerals are about far more than just saving money. They offer a way to honor the lives of loved ones by making the process much more personal and dignified. They also allow the family to connect with their dead by giving them a hands-on role in making sure their final requests are honored.

Home burial also provides the ability to tailor the entire process to reflect the individuality and personality of the departed. Families can choose meaningful locations, design personalized markers, and establish their own rituals to celebrate the life of their loved one. This personal touch fosters a more intimate connection between the family and the deceased, providing solace during the grieving process.

Even the funeral industry has started to take notice, with some funeral directors beginning to offer support to people who want to hold home funerals. The Green Burial Council is a group dedicated to advancing environmental standards for the funeral industry. The group is working to approve more funeral homes that accommodate families looking for home funeral options.

There is also a growing network of professionals who can assist individuals with carrying out a home funeral. While they do much more than advise on home burial, death doulas or death midwives can help you understand what to expect when planning a home funeral.

Whether or not a home funeral is right for you or your loved one is a question only you can answer. You will need to consider factors such as how the deceased would prefer to have his or her body handled, your religious or cultural beliefs, and how you and your family feel about handling the body. The important thing to know is that you do have the option of holding the funeral at home.

If you do decide that you would prefer a home funeral, it is critical that you document your decision in your funeral plan so that the individuals who are handling your arrangements are aware of your wishes.

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