Do I give the donation to the family or send it to the charity? Tagged: Flowers/Donations Jennifer Lane11 years, 9 months ago You would send the donation directly to the charity specified in the obituary. Most charities are set up to accept memorial donations, and the charity will notify the family that you have made a donation in honor of their loved one. Viewing 1 post (of 1 total) You must be logged in to reply to this topic. View More Flowers/Donations Questions