Advice
Hello-
I am so sorry that you are in the difficult period of seeing your father at the end of his life. That is so tough, but he certainly is a special man to be thinking of how he can continue to help his grandson after he is gone. You are very lucky to have such a wonderful man for a father.
To answer your question – there are a few options you can pursue. It is totally appropriate to request donations in lieu of flowers. The common mechanism these days is to setup a GoFundMe account, but there is no guarantee to people that the funds they contribute would be used for the grandson’s care.
Another option is go to your bank (or your dad’s bank) and talk to them about setting up a Memorial Bank Account for the purpose you have described. This would allow people to send donations directly to the bank, and perhaps give them assurance that the money would be used for the boy’s care. You and another trustworthy person would have signature authority on the account. You would do this now – before your dad passes, so that you can include the information (where to send the donation) in the obituary where you have “in lieu of flowers, please send……” and you can state exactly what your father wanted. This still isn’t a guarantee to people of how their money would be used, but it gives more of a trustworthy feel to it.
I hope this was helpful, and cherish every moment you have left with your father – there is nothing more valuable than that.
